Many of Maryland’s power couples appear to have enviable relationships, but when it is time to call it quits, a narcissist’s recollection of marital perfection may suddenly turn bitter. To protect a carefully crafted image of wedded bliss, a narcissistic spouse may begin to spread rumors about you or make themselves out as a victim during a divorce.
According to Psychology Today, a narcissist ends a relationship through his or her own “scorched-earth policy.” A perceived harm could anger your soon-to-be ex-spouse enough to begin a smear campaign against you. This may include going as far as showing up at your workplace, making derogatory phone calls to your friends or posting negative information online. The stories may be entirely untruthful, but the narcissist needs sympathy. He or she may also feel compelled to portray you as a misguided individual.
Spreading false information about the divorce, such as how the narcissist is an unfortunate and innocent a victim of your “lies,” helps the individual to feel in control. Tarnishing or ruining your reputation to friends, neighbors and relatives may be part of a strategy to ensure that everyone believes the narcissist is the one hurt.
To appear as though he or she is in control of the divorce procedure, the narcissist may portray you to an attorney or the family court judge as deceitful and conniving. Remaining assertive may make a difference in deciding child custody, and providing documentation or proof of a narcissist’s abuse may help determine the visitation rights the court awards. If the abuse is physical, an incident report filed with law enforcement officials may suffice to convince the court.
The information provided is for educational purposes only and not intended as legal advice.