For many struggling couples, the failure of a marriage is akin to the death of a loved one. Emotions range from relief to anger. Regardless of how long the union lasted, soon-to-be exes deal with a sense of mourning. With that loss also comes the fear of starting an uncertain new chapter of their lives.
Sadly, the trauma can create conflict between divorcing spouses. However, avoiding courtroom battles can help separating couples ease the stress and provide a more hands-on approach as they face an uncertain future.
The children’s best interests
Divorcing parents focusing on the best interests of their children is an essential first step. Forcing children to take sides only creates division and fosters future mental health issues post-divorce. Fear can also grip parents who worry about an allegiance with one authority figure over the other. While equal time with both parents is preferred, some parents fear it can still harm their kids.
Dividing time 50/50 will inevitably result in parents missing out on special events like holidays, annual gatherings, special events, celebrations, and travel. However, a schedule that alternates or allows for flexibility to attend special events can alleviate the sense of loss.
Enduring a complex, overwhelming, and intimidating legal process during an emotionally-charged time can bring on feelings of loneliness, if not outright isolation. Divorce is costly both personally and financially. Those looking at starting a new life will have concerns about the finances left over when the process ends.
Beginning a new chapter of your life is a challenging uphill battle. Reaching the top requires focusing on each day individually. In addition to keeping the end goal in mind, finding alternatives to litigation can provide a certain amount of control when life is spiraling out of control.
Ending a marriage is complicated. Help from an attorney who is both skilled and compassionate can ease the admittedly tricky transition.