As if getting a divorce is not stressful enough, it can also reveal potentially sensitive and embarrassing matters. You may not want your skeletons exposed, especially if you have children, but your representative needs to know if you have any.
Inform your counsel early on about anything (examples below) that could paint you in a negative light. Doing so could prevent your near or distant background from becoming a surprise weapon in court.
Intimate indiscretions
If you have had an affair, you do not want a dramatic courtroom reveal. Early disclosure can allow you and your representative to anticipate possible attacks and craft a robust response. Since the demise of the marriage is one of the factors Court’s consider when deciding equitable distribution of marital assets, it is especially critical to inform your representative as early as possible.
Substance abuse and addiction
Honesty about substance addiction or abuse helps your representative put a plan in place to support your stability and fitness as a parent. They can help you obtain evidence showing the court that you are actively working to recover. This may help to safeguard your rights now and in the future.
Digital and social media issues
In the modern electronic age, incriminating emails, racy photos or unflattering social media posts can lurk in the shadows to harm your character. Do not let your embarrassment keep you from telling your representative about any digital secrets you may have. Your counsel cannot help you if he or she does not have all the information.
Mediation can protect your privacy
Unlike courtroom litigation, divorce mediation can prevent personal details from becoming public knowledge. Other mediation benefits include less stress for all (including your kids), lower legal costs, and more control over your divorce.
